Stay Tender

I stood on the path in the woods I often go to looking up at the sky. I came here often when my Dad first passed away. I would cry, talk to him, stare at the trees, walk around, dream.. On the path the other day, I felt all of these emotions pour over me. I felt confusion, doubt and frustration. I cried and sat down on the same bench I always do and I felt this urge to try to get rid of these emotions. To pass them through my body as quickly as possible to get back to a feeling that felt good.

Whenever we’re mad, sad, heartbroken, etc we naturally try to push the emotions away. We want them out of our body as quickly as possible. We don’t want to feel the pain, the frustration, the heartbreak. As I scanned my mind to sort out my emotions, I stopped for a moment before letting my mind spin. I decided to surrender to the feeling and allowed myself to deeply feel all of this.. 

“If there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of 30 and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!”- André Aciman

This. These words, are so raw, real, true and moving. This particular quote is from a deeply moving book then film. While it's specifically about romantic involvement, it’s still about FEELING all of it.

It’s vital for us stay with our emotions. Let ourselves fully feel them in that deep way. This keeps ourselves and hearts open to receiving. Open to receiving from ourselves and from others. Life isn't meant to always feel good. There is beauty and suffering in it all. When I feel these emotions so deeply, I ask myself, how can I be more open to this?

How might you be more open to what you’re feeling right now? Notice if anything bubbles up when you ask yourself that question. I invite you to read that quote a few times and see how it settles within you. 

You get to choose how you want to show up each day but give yourself the permission to feel it all.

With love,